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‘An Undigested Bit of Beef’: Pocket pages week in review


Downtown Byron, IL, Sunday 26 April 2015

Downtown Byron, IL, Sunday 26 April 2015

It may be the case that being alive matters more than anything else in life, but it seems dumb to say it that way.

Any time a text, an artwork, an experience, or anything else is reduced to a “core idea” or a summary, that core idea or summary statement is B.S., an arbitrary abstraction.

In “A Christmas Carol,” Scrooge tells Marley’s ghost that he can’t be real, that  he doesn’t believe his senses “because … a little thing affects them. A slight disorder of the stomach makes them cheats. You may be an undigested bit of beef…”  Unfortunately, each moment’s thought may be a product of whatever mood or biochemical state my brain is in — ha!

I’m more interested in problems that are not yet defined than I am in solving problems once they’re defined.

I want to become whom I would become. I want to not steer myself in any direction but be open-minded.

I like it when I’m impressed by my own writing, when I read a piece of writing that seems cool and I don’t remember having written it.

Reading “The Odyssey” (R. Fagles translation) in my English 2 class with high school sophomores, I noted how Odysseus deals with some of the most-basic human drives in Book 10: hunger, where he kills the stag and where he eats with Circe; safety/security, where he makes Circe swear not to harm him; and sex, where Circe invites him:

Come, sheathe your sword, let’s go to bed together,

mount my bed and mix in the magic work of love—

we’ll breed deep trust between us.’

The transcendent is never purely physical — it can’t be. You can’t get there just from sensing beauty — sex, by itself, can’t be transcendent. Love makes it so. Sex without love is just physical, which can be thrilling but not transcendent. And transcendence is possible in many more ways than just through sex, of course. I’ve had writing experiences that have felt transcendent, in that they were experiences that were about much more than simply physical materials.

An Ad for Sex: ‘It’s how we get children’

Via The New York Times, here’s an ad from a Danish travel agency promoting vacations for procreation. Good stuff, particularly when one hears Scandinavian sweet nothings.

Link: Trend articles are B.S., or, Not everyone’s having lots of sex

This Slate article makes an interesting point in relation to the recent discussion of “hookup culture” inspired by a recent New York Times story that, while it did offer some anecdotes of people who aren’t having lots of sex, focuses mostly on collegians who are. The Slate article points out that particular demographic groups — wealthy white kids — tend to have more sex partners than college students in general do.

What I particularly like in the Slate article is where it points out that “people with privilege” are used as the default case for all college students:

Their ideologies dominate our discourses, their particular set of values gets to appear universal, and everyone is subject to their behavioral norms.

I know that news articles that attempt to point out social trends are often based on flimsy evidence from a narrow subgroup of people, but I’m glad to see this pointed out now and then. It’s helpful to me to be reminded (though I’m long out of college) that it’s OK to not be sharing the values (of various ways of being) that seem to be popular.